What would your biggest regret if today was your last day of life?
Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative care nurse recorded top five regrets of the dying.
The most common regrets were ‘I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me’, 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard', I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings’, I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends’ and ‘I wish that I had let myself be happier’.
Bronnie, who had spent several years caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives, recorded dying epiphanies in a blog, which she later compiled into a book titled ‘The Top Five Regrets of the Dying’.
People gained phenomenal clarity of vision at the end of their lives, she says. Most people had not realised half of their dreams and died knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Men regretted spending much of their lives at work.
Many regretted suppressing their feelings to keep peace with others. Most regretted settling for a mediocre life and never becoming who they were truly capable of, many fell ill due to the bitterness and resentment they carried around.
A number of people regretted not giving old friendships time. Many were stuck in
old patterns and habits, in the comfort of familiarity, when deep within, they longed to laugh aloud and welcome silliness into their lives.