After Briar died, her friends brought to life her last project — a joyful, awkward water ballet in the wading pool. A few weeks after she died, her friends charged into the wading pool in matching, green swimsuits.
“Good relationships don’t just protect our bodies; they protect our brains,” said Waldinger. “And those good relationships, they don’t have to be smooth all the time. Some of our octogenarian couples could bicker with each other day in and day out, but as long as they felt that they could really count on the other when the going got tough, those arguments didn’t take a toll on their memories.”
Knowing that she couldn’t travel to Cleveland, I emailed… on Tommy’s website, asking if there was a way to get a milkshake the 375 miles from Coventry Road to Arlington, Virginia where she was in hospice. A few days later I got a call from Tommy. “Yes. We will figure out a way to do this,” said Sam.
Sometimes we need to make every moment count, more so when we know a loved one has very limited time to be with us. A couple decided to make lasting memories of their baby, who had only a few days of life in him.
Life, for Sita, is every moment that offers a possibility to be happy; every moment that includes the company of her loved ones. Her family makes sure they do anything and everything that would make Sita comfortable and happy at home, by their side and amongst them.
Susan was a successful journalist and the mother of three children when she was diagnosed with motor neurone disease, an irreversible condition that destroys the nerves that power the muscles. The symptoms had been gradual, and “subtle”, such as cigarettes slipping from her fingers. The diagnosis was a life expectancy of three to five years. Susan made an immediate decision to grasp every minute she had left.
“Many people don’t sign advance directives because they worry they’re not going to get any care if they say they don’t want [cardiopulmonary resuscitation],” said Courtright. “It becomes this very scary document that says, ‘Let me die.’”